Hey friend,
I SEE YOU …
-Living in shame of your desires.
-Viewing sex as a chore.
-Letting insecurities keeping you from enjoying sex.
-Wondering if this is as a good as it gets.
-Feeling like God is punishing you.
-Struggling to connect to Christian materials about sexuality.
-Enduring physical discomfort during sexual activities.
-Questioning If you've had an orgasm.
...I SEE YOU, BECAUSE I WAS YOU.
Hi there, I’m Katy.
This might sound a little crazy, but I deeply care about your sex life. Not only that, but I care way more about the quality of sex you have than the context in which you are having it. I am passionate about promoting awareness and understanding of women's bodies, and encouraging the open discussion of sexuality within faith-based communities. I want to see sex shift from a taboo topic to embracing female pleasure within these spaces.
My Story,
I grew up heavily influenced by the “purity culture” movement in the early 2000’s and ate it up. I lived and breathed for the moment I found “the one” and finally had sex. I put my virginity and sex on a pedestal. So at 19 I got married and quickly realized that saving sex for marriage didn't guarantee a better sexual experience. Then I started looking for people similar to me and found that a lot of my unmarried friends were having BETTER sex than I was. Purity culture led me to believe that if I saved myself for marriage I would be rewarded with an amazing marriage and sex life. It was a lie, and if that was a lie…. What else was a lie?
It left me feeling robbed, angry, confused.
Throughout the course of my marriage I struggled to experience sexual pleasure and satisfaction, leading to arguments and tears. I was told that a female orgasm was just a “bonus” and not equally important. I recall countless instances where I felt frustrated, alone, often in tears after having sex. It was simple, my pleasure was not a priority. It was what we were taught- men need sex and women do not. Men or women are rarely taught how a women achieves orgasm. I had to figure this out on my own. It was isolating, the advice I came across in Christian literature and from mentors was primarily focused on satisfying your husband or attempting to cultivate a sense of desire. I felt broken.
I was not broken and neither are you.
Over the course of struggling in my marriage, becoming divorced and single again, I developed a complex of mixed emotions towards God and the evangelical church. It was (and sometimes still is) isolating, because I felt like I didn't fit inside the black and white Christian box that everyone wanted to put me in. Sex wasn’t a conversation people were willing to have outside the comfort zone of purity culture. But, I'm still as much of a sexual being as I am a spiritual one and no one was giving me answers on how to navigate that. As I continued my journey, I found a lot of other women were starving for someone to talk to about S E X without fear of being judged or shamed. I sensed a calling to help these women, to create space for them, to give them tools and resources I wish I had. I am thankful I get to use my story and my love for sex to help others experience sexual freedom and liberation.
Are you ready to experience sexual liberation?
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Get to know me…
I'm a messy christian.
I cuss a little.
I enjoy an occasional glass of Chardonnay and I’m always down for Margs.
I got married at 19 and divorced at 26.
I went to a purity ball and signed a purity pledge at 14.
I went on a 6 week trip to Australia, canceled my return flight and stayed 8 months.
There was a brief time where my mom sold sex toys and so here we are.
I worked a Victoria’s secret for 4+ years…again, here we are.
I am from Tyler, Texas.
I have 2 tattoos, one of Texas and one that says “ Do hard things” and I try to live up to it.